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Writing a Eulogy for Mother or Another Family Member

Writing and giving a eulogy for mother, eulogy for dad, or eulogy for grandmother can be one of the hardest things we have to do. In a time of grief and sorrow, we need to sit down and figure out how to sum up the life of someone close to us in a way that truly honours that person. This is no easy task, but it can be done.

Here is some advice that can help if you’re writing a eulogy for mom, a eulogy for dad, a eulogy for grandma, or a eulogy for grandfather.


Eulogy for Mother

Writing a eulogy for mom can be easier if you involve the rest of the family and your mother’s friends and colleagues. After all, we know our mothers, but few of us know all aspects of them as a person. Interview people who knew your mom and find out why they thought she was special. You can even quote these people in your eulogy for mom, giving you ready-made material.

Eulogy for Father

If you’re writing a eulogy for dad, you’ll want to interview people as described above. Your father’s friends may be able to provide more in-depth material on his interests and how he saw the world. Remember to always be respectful when you’re writing a eulogy for father or mother. Our parent may not have been perfect, but now is not the time to focus on shortcomings. A eulogy should always celebrate and praise the departed while being honest.

Eulogy for Grandmother

A good first step when writing a eulogy for grandmother is to collect historical information. Where was she born? What did she do as a young woman freshly out of school? How did she meet your grandfather? These questions will give you rich material that you can use in your eulogy for grandma. Of course, you’ll also want to talk about her later life. Personal stories, perhaps your own or those of her other grandchildren, make a nice addition in a eulogy for grandmother.

Eulogy for Grandfather

As described above, you will want to collect historical information for your eulogy for grandfather. It is likely that work was a big part of your grandfather’s life, even if he had been retired for many years. (This may be true for grandmothers as well.) Try to find people who knew your grandfather during his working years. What did they think of him? What impact or contribution did he make to his company or industry? Again, use personal stories in your eulogy for grandfather to bring him to life for your audience.


There is much more information for writing a eulogy in my book, How to Write and Deliver A Loving Eulogy. It provides a step-by-step process for gathering, organizing, and delivering your message and all proceeds go to support Rainbow for the Future.